Hey everyone. I’m a late-diagnosed adult looking to connect one-on-one with a peer who understands severe ADHD burnout, domestic isolation, and chronic pain. Groups move a bit too fast for my processor right now, so I’d love to just swap direct messages one-on-one if anyone has the space. Cheers.
Hi, welcome 
You may see some responses here with ideas for platforms to find a buddy, but I recommend posting in a social media community, e.g., Facebook.
This forum by default is set up to limit public information, including names, profiles, etc. On the link below, the Facebook community or popping along once to a support group would be more straightforward for you and others to connect:
Facebook Support Groups:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdukcharity/
If you choose to post on Facebook, there wouldn’t be pressure to respond to every comment, and you can switch off comments if you feel there are too many responses to process.
Another idea is to search for similar posts about the areas you mentioned, e.g. ‘burnout’, and you could comment on those posts if it was something you felt comfortable doing.
I hope this helps you find what works best for you, and that you can feel supported in all you’re going through. We all have our preferred ways of connecting, and what works for one person may not work for another, so it’s good that you’re getting creative with this
Hey, I am on day 1 of medication for my ADHD. was diagnosed at 29, now 30 years old. I may not be the adhd expert just yet but happy to chat. I deal with a busy family life, stressful shift work and experience pretty much what you described. Not sure if there’s a way to private message on here but my number is [number hidden]. I would kinda like an ADHD buddy too, more just someone that actually understands.
Hi, thanks for posting and sharing. With this being a public forum and posts viewable from search engines, contact details are removed from posts for your privacy
The best way currently to connect is through the support groups, including facebook so profile info and options settings are more straightforward, with them being closed groups:
Hi Joe , thanks . I have joined the face book page .. I got a response on here but can’t seem to find a friend request option and am very very new to this and am worried I just made a post or joined a post when really we want to be in a private chat .. how do I check/confirm this .. all the best and thanks again for the guidance with messaging and the link to Facebook 
Hi, great to hear you’ve joined the FB page
To send a message, click on a profile name, then ‘send message’, and write in the text box and send.
Note: there is a drop down menu, which confusingly, can say ‘create post’, which can create a post on the thread, and this will automatically go to moderator review.
The forum platform (discourse) is not set up for encrypted messaging either, so messages can also be auto flagged by the system.
For now, you can either message on here whilst making sure it’s definitely a ‘message’ and not ‘post’, or via the facebook support groups. In the future there might be some other options for the connecting via this forum, and if so, I will send an update